Myths About Suicide

Suicide is rarely understood and frequently stigmatized. I remember when I heard about fashion designer Kate Spade’s suicide. But she was rich and famous. And she had a teenaged daughter. Why?

But the truth is, no one really knows what kind of pain another person may be in. Even if they appear to have much to live for.

Because suicide isn’t talked about enough, it is shrouded in mystery.

Suicide Myths

  • It can’t happen to my teenage child.
  • Suicides come out of the blue with little or no warning.
  • People who stop acting depressed and begin acting inexplicably happy have turned a corner and are out of danger.
  • Everyone who attempts suicide intends to die.
  • Suicides occur only in lower socio-economic groups.
  • Those who talk about suicide don’t really do it.
  • Most suicide victims had prior attempts.
  • People who have everything to live for don’t do it.
  • People who commit suicide don’t want help.
  • Once people decide to die by suicide, there is nothing you can do to stop them.
  • People who attempt suicide and survive will not attempt suicide again.
  • Only people who appear depressed attempt suicide.
  • A suicide attempt is a manipulative behavior and therefore should be ignored or even punished.
  • Depression and other mental disorders do not occur in young people.

Suicide Warning Signs

These are signs that someone maybe considering or planning to commit suicide

My father committed suicide when I was 11 years old. Even at that age, I knew that he was depressed. I felt guilty for years because I felt like I should have been able to prevent it.

I realize now that a young child cannot prevent a parent’s suicide. But it is preventable. Pay attention to your family, friends and coworkers. Don’t be afraid to intervene. You could save their life.

If someone you know is talking about or planning to take his or her life, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255).

13 thoughts on “Myths About Suicide

  1. I was 16 when my mom had a total mental breakdown. My dad told her to get over it and wouldn’t help an iota. I went to my boss at work, explained, and he gave me two weeks personal time, even if it was unpaid. I went to see my mom, 80 miles away, every single day, PLUS I lived at home and did the cleaning and laundry and cooked and helped my sister with her homework. While my dad drove his big rig 6 out of 7 days straight. He visited my mom ONCE in 3 weeks, right at the holiday season, cos he doesn’t think mental illness is real. He even told mom,in hospital, how she was being weak and wimpy and an utter disappointment to him. (One more reason I call him the doom and gloom monger.)
    Now my mom and sis-who both spent weeks in a psych ward- claim mental illness isn’t real and I am just some pill popping psych med junkie. Because they have accepted depression and anxiety as normal every day life.
    I have lost at least 3 on line friends, and 2 family members to suicide in the last 15 years. I have a cousin who shot himself but lived and now he is a walking vegetable, for all intents and purposes.
    Suicide is not always a vapid cry for help, it is not a weakness. It really is someone crying out for ACTUAL help. Maybe a couple of drama llamas fit in there and make you think it is all some big fake show…But it is real 90% of the time. Shutting out people crying for help is about as humane as letting a pet scour for food in an alley.
    Just my opinion, but I have had enough experience on this one that I feel my opinion has some validity.

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  2. I am so sorry. For him to put all of that on you at that age and to diss your mom…I have no words. You have endured so much, much more than most any person. I think that’s why I admire you. You’re a survivor. And you’re a strong woman. Don’t ever let your health issues lie to you and say you’re weak or incapable. Or crazy. I’m not saying you’re Super Woman (gee that would be a lot of pressure!). There are physical limitations that almost all humans have. I know I’ve got a ton! I’m saying your spirit, your personality, your love for your daughter….these make you a very strong woman. And I’m proud of you! Hugs,😀❤️😜💥

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  3. Really sorry to hear about your mum. Suicide is a delicate subject for many but if someone out there knows someone who is down, depressed or constantly sad, please just ask the direct question “Are you thinking about suicide.” It will not make them feel suicidal by asking. You could help save a precious life.

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    1. I’ve been researching suicide since I was a teenager since my dad killed himself. Some who do it really don’t want to but feel like there is no option. Addicts, people stuck in impossible situations with work or family, people who’ve lost all their money, people who have no friends or family….some think “I’m no good to anyone so I’m better off dead” like they’re a burden. What if these people could have just one caring friend or acquaintance offer support? Just listen to them? Show them that someone cares? What if that could save their life? Would you do it?

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  4. Everyone should understand that life is of struggles and one has to overcome it by facing it all. If they thought suicide is a solution for allow problems, then every adult should have died by now.

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